Life can pack one hell of a punch. If you want to succeed in your ambitions, you’re going to have to fix what is messing up your life. Cut out fake friends and drama, not because you’re anti-social, but because you have no time for drama and fake friends to get in the way of your dreams. Never let those who have no true purpose, destroy yours. Their lives are messed up because of them, and not you. You do you.
Reinventing yourself isn’t about taking more spin classes and eating fewer carbs. A lot of people choose to just reinvent one part of their life and expect change to come. Well, I’m sorry if this isn’t what you were hoping to hear but it’s true. In order to make yourself truly happy and see change, you need to reinvent more than just your health. Having the initiative to do so is hard and might even seem impossible, but you will get there eventually. You may have days where you just don’t want to get up. But here’s the thing – if you give up now, you have already failed. You’re never out of the fight, no matter what stage you are at.
“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow men. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self.” – Ernest Hemingway
I never truly understood the meaning behind, “Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it” until I stopped caring about what others thought about me. Someone’s always going to judge you as an individual, either because they don’t have their own lives together or because their self-esteem is so low that they need to judge in order to feel better about themselves. By not reacting to their comment, you’re not giving them the satisfaction that they were looking for.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Walk with a confidence and be confident. You’re you and that’s all that matters. Let others do their thing and you do yours. To stop and judge others is not your purpose in life. You’re not truly focused on your goal if you have time to judge others.
Play with the cards you were dealt with because in life there is no easy day. But you can make it easier if you have the right mindset for it. Take it day by day, and make each day count. We have such little time in this world, and it would be a shame to just use that time to judge others. Your life has meaning to it. Don’t waste it.
The Key to Reinventing Yourself
That’s easier said than done. Confidence is more than just being confident in yourself. Being confident is walking with a purpose and having the ability to walk away from the negativity that is filling up your life. If you choose to keep negativity in your life, you will lose your sanity. Trust me. I lost my sanity when I let negativity fill my entire life. And because of that – I cut out all the things that were destroying my true purpose for being here. And that has made all the difference.
Don’t let others take hold of your sanity.
It’s yours and yours only. You are you and if they can’t accept you for who you truly are then (pardon my French) f*ck them. Just because that individual doesn’t have their life together, doesn’t mean that it’s your responsibility to fix a problem they need to fix. It’s your life, not theirs. Take it back from those who tried to destroy it.
Haters will always be haters.
But their words don’t always have to hurt you. A negative mind will never give you a positive life. One negative thought will lead to another one and so on and so forth. Stop letting those who never cared about you in the first place, hurt you. Be confident enough to just walk away.
Negative comments may feel like a tidal wave sometimes but that doesn’t mean that they have to stay in your mind forever. Don’t even take the time to process negative comments; they’re not worth your time. A negative comment from a person that doesn’t even know who you truly are shouldn’t matter to you. All they see is the outside. The inside is so much more different than the outside. You know who you truly are and what you are truly capable of. Don’t let others have claim over that.
The moment you stop caring about what people think of you is the moment you start to live. Living life to the fullest is a great way to live. You may be scarred from those past experiences, but that doesn’t mean that they have to have control over who you are now. They’re still a part of you and always will be. Those scars are what got you here. Make those scars into a positive and use them as motivate you. You’re a survivor and a fighter. Never ever forget that.
“I admire people who choose to shine even after all the storms they’ve been through.” – Unknown
We all have rough patches in life. It’s human to have a little bump in the road. They may seem hopeless when we’re in them, but have faith; faith that the reward will be better than the pain at the end of this rough patch. We learn lessons from our troubles. Lessons that will guide us through life and also give us the confidence we need to push on.
Another way to reinvent yourself is by getting a journal.
I realize that getting a journal might not sound like the most interesting thing to do with your life but studies have shown that writing your feelings and experiences down can be very therapeutic. I started writing my own memoirs earlier last year in 2015. I’ve come a long way since then and have found it to be quite calming.
Now back to what I was talking about earlier about working out. Working out can be a great release if you’re feeling stressed. I’m not saying that you have to join your local CrossFit (it wouldn’t hurt, though), what you need to do is get outside with nature. Go to the gym. Go for a run, a hike, a walk. Whatever you choose to do, make sure you’re getting out there. I hit the weights every week, but I also hike when I get the chance to. Hiking is not only beautiful, but it’s also healthy.
Having a good support system to fall back on is important. Family, friends, teachers, therapists, even the guy who cuts your meat at the deli, whoever you choose to talk to, make sure it’s the right person. A person who cares about you. True friends are revealed when we’re at our lowest point. They’re hard to come by, but when you find one, you better hold onto them.
At the end of the day, have fun and live life to the fullest. Your life is what you make it out to be. Don’t focus on others. We’re all on a different path here. Life isn’t meant for us to just sit around and let time go by. Live, Laugh, and Learn. Just remember these 4 simple rules:
- Make yourself happy first.
- Live your life with passion.
- Don’t care about what others think of you.
- Just have fun. We only have one life to live, so live it.
What are you truly willing to let go in order to find inner peace?