Productivity

Why Sometimes Being Rejected is The Best Thing That Could Happen To You

REjected, thumbs down,

Probably most of you know that Facebook just bought WhatsApp for $16 000 000 000, for those who don’t know what WhatsApp is; it’s an ad-free mobile messaging app that allows users to exchange text and media messages through their Internet data plan or through Wi-Fi. Users do not have to pay for SMS. How is that connected to the title? Continue reading and you will find out.

Rejection can be a good thing.

I haven’t met anyone yet who has not felt the sting of rejection at some point in his or her life. You have probably been rejected by friends or family, or your teacher, or your job application was turned down. Maybe you were fired, I don’t know, but that doesn’t mean that you are not good enough.

Rejected, rejection

Often times we are redirected to something better.  J. K. Rowling wrote Harry Potter after being sacked as a secretary for ­‘day­dreaming’. She then got rejected by not one, not two, but 12 publishers before the chairman of Bloomsbury brought home the Potter manuscript for his ­daughter Alice to read.  Almost every record label turned down Beatles. Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was “too stupid to learn anything.” Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Oprah Winfrey was told she was “unfit for TV.” Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. See Also (How to Take Advantage Of Opportunities)

Brian Acton got his job application rejected by Facebook at 2009 – then he co-founded WhatsApp with Jan Koum and yesterday Facebook bought WhatsApp For $16 000 000 000.
Brian Acton, facebook, rejected, turned down, whatsapp, buy, bought

I could continue forever. But you have to understand that being rejected is not a bad thing, it’s your attitude when you get rejected that matters. Don’t you want to prove people wrong when you get rejected? I do.

You must become the kind of person who grows from rejection. I’ve gotten rejected lots of times–tons. It sucks every single time. It will always hurt. But it doesn’t always have to stop you cold. When I look at the past year alone since starting motivationgrid.com, I’ve been told many times “no,” or “later,” and “maybe not.” I was rejected by so many people when I asked for help and I continue to get rejected on a daily basis, but that doesn’t matter. I am not giving up. I am willing to trade 10 000 no’s for just one yes. Being rejected is not a disaster, disaster is being trapped in a mine, disaster is being in a plane that’s going down.

The possibilities for learning from rejection are endless. It might be that you realize just how important a particular value is to you compared to someone else (like loyalty).  Or it could be that you understand now that if you learned to communicate your feelings better, it would make a huge difference in your next relationship. And since we’re all going to experience AND live through rejection, why not make it a point to learn something?

Have you ever known anyone who has such a level of confidence that they face rejection and come out unscathed? I guess we all have that one friend who is not scared to go out and ask absolutely every girl he meets, and in the ends he always has a date.  These people “secret” is that they are totally comfortable with the fact that with rejection there can be great learning and growth.  They are also the individuals who have learned not to take rejection personally.  They are able to understand that sometimes rejection may be a blessing in disguise and that it can take time for that fact to reveal itself.

You should always remember that there is no shame in being rejected. The real shame lies in not trying and giving up. Just remember, sometimes it isn’t about you at all. Sometimes it’s about what the other person’s journey is supposed to be.  It’s a hard lesson, but one that all of us can understand.

So, in your life – have you been “rejected” lately? And if so, what did you make that mean about yourself? I know it hurts and it will for a while – this too will pass. But what did you make the rejection MEAN about yourself? Did you make it mean something negative about you? Or did you just take it as GRACE and move on?

16 Comments

16 Comments

  1. mermer

    February 21, 2014 at 2:58 pm

    Dear Hristiqn, Thanks for sharing this wonderful piece. Indeed, I have derived motivation from this read. I have been recently rejected many a times in my job search and I am not able to take it up. I have been surviving rounds of interviews..after which I am being rejected. I made up my mind to give up but I am surely re-thinking on that now.
    I look forward to more posts from you..

  2. Carolyn Coleman-Grady

    February 22, 2014 at 6:47 pm

    Excellent take on rejection. I recently submitted 2 thesis both rejected on Reducing the readmissions rate of Congested Heart failure both were rejected. I was devastated because 3 hospitals in my area implemented my Project and are seeing reductions in this population. 2 credits my Masters of Nursing. Wow a blow. But, the greatest reward for me is the acceptance of hospitals and the excitement I see from them and patients hospitalization reduction. Thanks I needed to read this one.

  3. Nate Leung

    February 23, 2014 at 5:12 am

    Hello Hristiqn,

    It wasn’t always the case, but I never viewed rejection as a good thing until about a few years ago. I look back now and see that if it weren’t for rejection, new opportunities would have not come up because of it. This is a great reminder! Thank you!

  4. Ryan Biddulph

    February 23, 2014 at 5:28 am

    I learned this lesson after reading a few self help books; rejection is a chance to score a perfect fit Hri. Power message! If you let go you grow. If you see rejection as preference, you can find better, more prospering matches quickly….just like our newly minted millionaire/billionaire above 😉

  5. Jeanne Melanson

    February 23, 2014 at 8:03 am

    Excellent post, Hristiqn. Rejection is difficult for most people to deal with. In order to survive, it’s a matter of changing your mindset from one of failure, to seeing it as one door closing and another one opening. Next! Thanks, friend. 😉

  6. Clara

    February 23, 2014 at 4:54 pm

    Sometimes the thing you’re chasing is the thing that could ruin you. I’m closely acquainted with rejection, but it’s part of life and sometimes it’s what you need.

  7. Ntokozo Nkosi

    February 24, 2014 at 6:40 am

    This is great, I have to word other that to say this is a super great post, thank you

  8. Esha

    February 24, 2014 at 12:48 pm

    Excellent post dear!

  9. Denise Patton

    February 24, 2014 at 5:43 pm

    Fabulous post … a couple of weeks ago I was rejected by a local Facebook Group because of my newly acquired interest in Fracking and how it should be stopped. Although rejected by that group I then was led to another group where I have learnt so much in the last couple of weeks and feel totally at home with very likeminded people.

    Your post is very inspiring and I will share xxx

  10. Margz

    March 2, 2014 at 1:34 pm

    Thanks for posting an article like this. For me, being rejected is but a great Blessing… it only shows that you are meant for something greater and/or better than what you have wished for. Keep inspiring everybody. Wish you the Best in Life! God Speed! 🙂

  11. Fake Oakleys

    March 20, 2014 at 5:58 am

  12. Natalie

    March 24, 2014 at 3:19 pm

    Hi Hristiqn,

    Thank you so much for this post, and also for this blog. I got fired back in December from a job I was overqualified for and have been in anxiety over the job hunt ever since. The first month was the hardest: rethinking what I would have done wrong…what I could have done better….replaying the scenarios in my head. But after reading this post, I wonder if maybe they weren’t ready for the changes I wanted to implement. Anyways, I wanted to thank you for this blog. I’m actually making an effort to visit here regularly for a pick-me-up whenever I need one. Honestly, thank you for your work. I’m really grateful for what you write. They say that there are no good events, or bad events, and it is only our perception that tips the scale into the different categories. I think you’re doing a great job at helping people think of the positive in life.

    • Hristiqn 'Cris' Nikolov

      March 24, 2014 at 7:22 pm

      Hey Natalie,

      Thank you for your kind words. I am so happy that I helped you in a way. This means a lot to me.

  13. Christine ferris

    April 23, 2014 at 12:59 am

    I had a very interesting rejection recently at work. Something I never would have imagined I would experience It took me about a week to let it go and see the real learning.

    I work in the social welfare industry and a supervisor has not been a supporter of quality and process improvement efforts, the dept. I work in. He recently told me that I was viewed as a premadonna. I knew he was speaking for himself but that didn’t matter. I encouraged him to voice his true feelings so I would have a better idea of what I was really dealing with, with him. So he continued to tell me that all of my college diplomas on my wall didn’t mean anything. They might mean something to the big guys who work in the Capitol but they mean nothing to the local folks where I’m officed. Keep in mind he just applied for a top job in my region.

    I mustered up the strength to not tell him what I really thought back but inside I was devastated. He obviously didn’t know me, my character, my history. I grew up poor, disadvantaged, abused, neglected. I was no different than the very type of person our government entity serves and are told not to judge. I couldn’t change that businesses wanted a higher education. I did the work but didn’t get paid the salary. I felt discriminated against for lack of an advanced degree. After some initial sense of unfairness, I made my way through college and then graduate school, working full time days and going to school full time nights and weekends, on my dime. I didn’t make excuses anymore. I decided to own my destiny. Now for being successful, and having degrees I found myself once again feeling discriminated against for the opposite reason, for being educated and perceived as not being able to relate.

    While I was crushed and shed a tear in private, I soon came to realize it wasn’t about me personally. It reminded me that we are constantly being judged rightly or wrongly and how important it is to get to genuinely know people. We all have a story. We limit ourselves when we don’t ask questions and instead choose to presume. There is ALWAYS another side of the story. It’s up to us to care to look for and be capable of seeing it.

    So now I smile in realizing this person has no clue, and think only if he knew what he doesn’t know.

    • Cris Nikolov

      April 23, 2014 at 12:02 pm

      Yes, the coin always has 2 sides. You’ve got to remember you will always be judged no matter if you are poor or rich, educated or not, smart or dumb. People judge others so they could feel superior to them or so they would find excuse why you are superior to them. It’s a never ending cycle, and sadly that’s how we humans are. That’s why do not worry about other people opinion, only yours matters. It’s not about what others think about you, it’s about what you think about you!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

To Top