This article was last updated on December 29, 2015
To win the battle against yourself, first, you need to understand what do you want most in your life? What can you not go a day without thinking about? Now you have to understand that the battle against yourself is the hardest battle. And you probably tell yourself that you can’t do it. That it is too hard to accomplish. That you are not good enough. Your mind constantly makes up a ton of excuses as to why you can’t do that thing to keep you where you are. Why?
Because you are afraid. You are subconsciously afraid of the change that will come from going after your dream. It doesn’t matter whether the change will be good or bad, your ego is afraid to change. Why is this? Because your ego likes the status quo. Right now, in this moment, you are alive and well and your ego wants to keep it that way. Evolution has given us an ‘ego’ precisely for that reason: self-preservation. It had a logical purpose back when humans were hunter-gatherers. We literally had to be afraid of everything that was foreign in order to stay alive. Not anymore.
We as a society need to finally move past those days of being afraid all the time. There is simply no reason for it. Our fear manifests itself in a ton of different ways. Wars, criminal actions, not going after the girl in the bar, and excuses all stem from our fear. In order to change as a whole, we need to change individually. You must change! I must change! We all need to take a good look in the mirror and say what are we really so afraid of? Is anything really that scary that we can’t overcome it? Is approaching that girl at the bar really that scary that I need to sit in the corner and regret trying to talk to her? Is going after my dream really going to hurt me so bad if I fail that I can’t recover?
The answer is an emphatic NO! What do you think separates successful people from non successful people? The answer is that those who are successful face their fears head on and overcome them. Successful people aren’t afraid of change because they aren’t controlled by fear! Those who are unsuccessful allow fear to overcome them and hate when anything changes in their lives.
Change is inevitable and the sooner we as individuals realize it the better off we will be. You cannot go after your dreams if you are afraid. It simply won’t happen. You will constantly make up excuses as to why you can’t do it or why you are no good. I certainly did this for a while until I made a conscious decision and said, F*** it. I’m going to do what I want to do with my life and my fear will not stop me.
Don’t let your fears stop you. Be relentless in your approach to life and attack your fears head on. Win the battle against yourself and when you win that battle you will grow as a human being and achieve the life you want.
Thanks for reading. What is your biggest fear? What is holding you back? Please share any feedback in the comments below!